![]() It is absolutely to be expected that most teenagers will go through at least a mild asshole phase. At a pretty wild guess, I'd say 95% of the people on this subreddit have been teenagers and maybe 40-50% have raised at least one. They also have ALL the hormones going on. They're learning adult boundaries, but are also mentally progressing from child logic to adult logic and ability to deal with new responsibilities. Teenagers are going through the transition from child to adult, it's the period they start rebelling, pushing boundaries, becoming their own person. But you can simultaneously believe someone deserves to have consequences for their actions and acknowledge that there are biological hardships that they’re subjected to I’m not saying they’re excused for certain actions because consequences ARE one of the ways they learn not to be an asshole. Yeah teenagers are assholes but there are definite physiological reasons for that. I won’t continue because this is already super long compared to what I intended to write but The brain literally gets reshaped in the period between puberty and adulthood, eliminating more than 40% of the synapses etc etc These links are critical for emotional learning and high-level self-regulation. Research also shows that the brain is not fully developed nor stabilized hormonally until after age 25Īmong the last connections to be fully established are the links between the prefrontal cortex, seat of judgment and problem-solving, and the emotional centers in the limbic system, especially the amygdala. This is what I mean when I say teens are vulnerable to social pressures Adolescents, were more likely to take extra chances when friends were watching. In an experiment, adolescents and adults took a driving simulation test that allowed them to win a reward by running a yellow light and stopping before they hit a wall. What ISN’T developed is the ability to interrupt an action already in progress to think before acting, and even to choose between safer and riskier alternatives. Most studies show that abstract reasoning, memory, and the formal capacity for planning are fully developed by age 15 or 16. Teenage brains experience stress chemicals in larger amounts, especially in regard to social problems. I meant it more in the sense that teenage brains are hardwired to work a specific way, not that each individual teen behaves exactly like (insert thing here) And for whatever reason one of my sisters has taken her side and said I should have invited her. However when my daughter found out she wasn't invited afterwards she sent me some angry messages calling me a "selfish narcissistic prick". She very obviously doesn't like my girlfriend and I didn't want a repeat of the last situation. Last weekend I threw a small indoor BBQ dinner at my house and I again invited most of my family and a few friends and some of my girlfriends friends. I'm not delusional, I know one of the reasons that my girlfriend is with me is money and I assume everyone else in the family knows that too, same way one of the reasons I'm with my girlfriend are her looks. She generally just ruined the whole dinner. But then after a few glasses of wine me and my daughter got into this small argument, I honestly don't even remember what it was about and during that argument she called my girlfriend a gold digger and left shortly after. And everyone seemed to like her, we had a fun dinner. Six months ago I started dating my current girlfriend.Ībout six weeks ago I invited most of my family out to dinner (my daughter, my siblings and their partners, my parents), I felt like our relationship was at a point that I wanted to introduce her as my girlfriend to the family. Over the last few years I've dated quite a few women but I wouldn't class any of those relationships as "serious". I do blame myself for that, after the divorce I went into a sort of mid life crisis (although I was only in my early 30s). After me and her mom divorced when she was 13 I saw her maybe once every 2-3 months and on birthdays/holidays. I've never been particularly close with my daughter.
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